I know it has been awhile since I have posted on my blog my deepest apologies. During this period time and energy are very very precious and very little, LOL. I have posted a short video of encouragement below. I hope that it encourages someone to trust the Lords plan for your life.
How many times have you said I will start this the diet on Monday, I will go to the gym starting on Monday oh I know one I will eat healthier on Monday. Why is “Monday” such a problem? We waste so much time saying we will start on _ but it never happens. Instead of saying what you’re going to do how about just do it. Just start right now, today. Why wait? But I may not keep up with it; I guarantee that you won’t keep it up if you never start. You can’t when a race if never go the starting point. You have to be intentional about the things that you know lend to a healthier and more productive lifestyle. Consider the following steps to help you get start today with a brighter and better future.
See the Value. The reason we don’t start or attempt to complete majority of our “intentions” is because we don’t truly see the value. So before starting a new exercise regimen, eating habit or daily practices. Ask yourself how is this going to benefit me short term and long term. Shifting your perspective of why it is important to successfully maintain a habit will actually make you successful.
Make a Decision. Stop reconsidering every two day whether or not you go through with your new habit. No more you consider the less you actually do. Make a decision today and stick to it. Remind yourself of the value of the results you are seeking and allow it to motivate you to continue your new habit.
Start Today. Why wait until next week or Monday. If you start now it will make it easier. When we procrastinate you lose time that you can never get back. You also allow more time to talk yourself out of doing the habit or task. You allow your mind to become consumed with negative thoughts and forgot why you even wanted to start the new habit.
New habits are always hard to develop. Taking one day at time will help you to be successful. Remember you can do this! What new habit will you begin today?
This a topic that I know all to well that rejection really hurts, but the reality that it could cause more psychological damage than emotional damage is mind blowing. Here are some behavior patterns that are often associated with rejection because it has various effects on our emotions, thinking, and behavior.
Rejection does not respond to reason. When you have been emotionally wounded by a person(s) or situation, reason goes out the window quickly. Consequently, people often say things or do things that they later regret. In the heat of the moment you no longer care about others emotions or well-being. You go into, what I define as, “survival of the fittest” mode. You become so consumed with your feelings and thoughts that everyone is shut out. This is why it is suggested that before reacting to situations you take time to “cool down”. You don’t want to live a life of regret, hurting those who you really care about with the words you say; or even worse, by taking someone’s life.
We can relive and re-experience the pain. If you try to recall a time you felt emotional inadequacy, your mind will be flooded with many of the same feelings you had at the time. The experience of rejection can easily haunt you because we are social butterflies. We lend our lives to interactions with our environment, which consist of hundreds of people on a weekly basis. You don’t forget the embarrassing moment when you weren’t chosen to play on the team, etc. The only way to deal with feelings of rejection is to practice forgiveness.
Rejection destabilizes our “Need to Belong”. If you are like me, you feel a need to belong to a group. Through many experiences I have found that this need decreases dramatically after rejection. This, in some ways, adds to the sting of rejection because you have now rejected the idea that you can be accepted in a group of people: self-esteem significantly decreases. Romantic or “friendship” rejection tends to leave us feeling inadequate and blaming ourselves for the rejection. This type of rejection usually stems from the lack of chemistry between the person(s), lifestyle differences, or wanting different things at different times. However, I found that connecting with those who love me, or reaching out to my closest friends, holds much more value and helps to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Most importantly, seeking encouragement through the word of God is most beneficial.
Rejection creates surges of anger and aggression. Just when you think you are over the sting of rejection, you wake up one morning infuriated and ready to crush anyone that attempts to say anything constructive to you. When this happens, usually there is a trigger for the anger. Maybe a text or message from the person(s), you see a social media post, or even hear a famous line that the person(s) quoted often. Either way, you cannot afford to sit and harness the anger because it only causes destruction.
Like I said earlier, we have to practice forgiveness if we desire to deal with issues of the heart and mind. Live a limitless and free life!
Take a few moments, inhaling and exhaling. As you sit in silence, tell me, what is that thought gnawing at you? In those moments of silence we tend to discover many different aspects about ourselves. From learning about our hopes and desires, to learning our strengths and weaknesses. Today I want to focus on that negative thought, or situation, that has held you back long enough. I know you’re thinking, I am so over it and I don’t even care about that anymore. Beloved, please be honest with yourself, for it is the only way you can grow and move on. Know your weakness, or distraction, so you can strategically move past “the hang-up”. I can personally testify, I have allowed many things in my life, mostly frequently the feeling of betrayal, to “hang me up”. Let’s take a few moments and discuss the betrayal of the Lord Jesus Christ.
In Matthew 26:14-16 we find that Judas agrees to betray Jesus:
14 Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests 15 and asked, “What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?” So they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver. 16 From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over.
Judas was a disciple of the Lord. But yet Judas agrees to betray him for money.
47 While he was still speaking, Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived. With him was a large crowd armed with swords and clubs, sent from the chief priests and the elders of the people. 48 Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: “The one I kiss is the man; arrest him.” 49 Going at once to Jesus, Judas said, “Greetings, Rabbi!” and kissed him.
50 Jesus replied “Do what you came for, friend.”
We know that the Lord Jesus Christ had the power to heal the sick, give sight to the blind, and allow the lame to walk. Do you not think that he could have easily overcome Judas and the crowd of armed men? He chooses to surrender so that we might have the keys to eternal life. His surrender was not a sign of weakness, but a sure sign of strength. He accomplished what he set out to do, which was to fulfill the redemption plan of mankind. I wonder where we would be today if Jesus was “hung up” on the betrayal instead of staying focused on the goal.
It is time to let go of the weight and stop replaying, over and over again, the betrayal of the loved one. Forgive for he has forgiven you. The truth is we all make mistakes. And you, the accuser or accused, cannot stay in that place. Do not allow bitterness, malice, or angry to dictate your future. He has a plan for you and it doesn’t consist of you whaling in self-pity and hurt. Get over the hang up, not for them, but for you to truly be free. What great example Jesus set for us. Remember he is our example, he is the Golden Standard.
It saddens me to think that for so long I allowed the adversary to steal my joy and hope for a bright future: simply because I didn’t forgive. I didn’t forgive them and I didn’t forgive myself. I couldn’t let go of the hurt and embarrassment of being rejected. I stayed hung up on the disappointments for way too long, which held me back from walking in my purpose. So, I stand with you today and proclaim:
You will no longer be the same after reading this post. You will no longer hold on to the pain, shame, and embarrassment of your past hurts and disappointments. You recognize that your hope is in Christ and not in man. You will walk with confidence proclaiming the things of the kingdom. You have spiritual, emotional, and physical health and wealth.
Being more focused has tremendous short and long term benefits in everyday life. For instance, you become more positive, you gain clarity, you improve your decision making skills, and you are less distracted. Being more focused also helps with attaining your goals. When setting a goal, you plan and arrange events in an order that will lead to success. Now, it is understood, situations or mishaps happen that may interfere with the timeline you have set to accomplish your goal. However, when difficult situations arise, you must be so focused on accomplishing your goal that a setback doesn’t mean you stop or turn around.
Whether writing a paper or planning an event for your church, distractions make it difficult to stay focused on your goal. Every day we are confronted with distractions from social media sites, television, and relationships. However, if accomplishing your goal is important to you, then the questions you must answer are: what is the cause of your distraction? Are you often distracted due to a lack of motivation? Are you focused on something totally different? And do you lack the faith in one’s ability to accomplish your goal? Be truthful and honest with yourself. It is important to recognize how your individual distractions affect you in order to eliminate them from your lifestyle. After answering these questions, you will find it easier to refocus and refresh yourself daily.
As always, consult your health professional before starting a vitamin or mineral supplement regimen or exercise program.
Most of us spend hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars buying products and vitamins to help promote healthy growing hair. Trust me, I was also a part of this cycle for years. Why won’t my hair grow? Why do I experience so much breakage? What if the problem stems from more than taking a vitamin a day? I believe that your overall health helps to promote healthy growing hair.
Promote a Healthy Eating Lifestyle. I know this can be hard, I love snacks too, but eating healthy can taste good!! A balanced diet is essential to the overall health of your body and hair. Therefore, include plenty of fruits, vegetables, fish, and meats in your daily diet. It is also important to include the right proteins in your diet: fish, turkey, chicken, eggs, bean, nuts and soy products. These foods promote keratin production, which happens to be the building block of hair. Other essential nutrients to include are Iron, Zinc, and Vitamin C. Iron helps to deliver oxygen to the cells in your body, while Zinc helps in the repair of your tissue and insures hair follicles are producing oil properly. Vitamin C is needed to break down iron, as well as, help build up hair that is prone to breakage. So the next time you want snack cakes and candy, try to substitute them with fruits or vegetables that you love instead.
Exercise. Along with eating healthy, exercise will help to improve your overall health. Exercises help reduce stress, process food, improve sleep patterns, as well as, maintain a healthy weight.
In addition to eating health and exercise, I think it’s perfectly fine to take vitamin and mineral supplements. Taking a supplement can fill in the gaps for the lack of vitamins ingested from your daily diet, or lack of your body to produce these vitamins. Also, supplements contain essential vitamins that may help prevent heart disease, cancer, and other health related problems. I am merely pointing out the benefits of a healthy lifestyle.
As always, consult your health professional before starting a vitamin or mineral supplement regimen or exercise program.