Welcome back to Inspired Lifestyle. I know I know, I have not been very inconsistent posting here on my blog page. But I have been more consistent posting on my Youtube Channel. I will however, over the few next weeks, attempt to upload past Youtube videos as well as post fresh content to my blog page and YouTube Channel. A few post you can look forward to will be: The Transitional Place, Blast From the Past and Celebrating Inspired Lifestyle’s One Year Anniversary.
Well to the point of this post!!
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Welcome back to inspired lifestyle. Rachael will be talking about letting go of your past. It is time to move forward in the liberty that you have been given. Hopefully this post short video will encourage you to move forward and let go of the past.
How many times have you said I will start this the diet on Monday, I will go to the gym starting on Monday oh I know one I will eat healthier on Monday. Why is “Monday” such a problem? We waste so much time saying we will start on _ but it never happens. Instead of saying what you’re going to do how about just do it. Just start right now, today. Why wait? But I may not keep up with it; I guarantee that you won’t keep it up if you never start. You can’t when a race if never go the starting point. You have to be intentional about the things that you know lend to a healthier and more productive lifestyle. Consider the following steps to help you get start today with a brighter and better future.
See the Value. The reason we don’t start or attempt to complete majority of our “intentions” is because we don’t truly see the value. So before starting a new exercise regimen, eating habit or daily practices. Ask yourself how is this going to benefit me short term and long term. Shifting your perspective of why it is important to successfully maintain a habit will actually make you successful.
Make a Decision. Stop reconsidering every two day whether or not you go through with your new habit. No more you consider the less you actually do. Make a decision today and stick to it. Remind yourself of the value of the results you are seeking and allow it to motivate you to continue your new habit.
Start Today. Why wait until next week or Monday. If you start now it will make it easier. When we procrastinate you lose time that you can never get back. You also allow more time to talk yourself out of doing the habit or task. You allow your mind to become consumed with negative thoughts and forgot why you even wanted to start the new habit.
New habits are always hard to develop. Taking one day at time will help you to be successful. Remember you can do this! What new habit will you begin today?
Every time I experience disappointments, I feel extremely overwhelmed by a range of emotions. And more times than not, I tend to withdraw myself from others. Even though I tell myself I will never feel this way again, the acknowledgement that disappointments come and go is very important. I have learned to accept and understand that it is a part of life. It tends to rip me to pieces and question myself, but I found a few key things that help me deal with disappointments. In no particular order, I have listed them and perhaps you can try them as well.
Learn to Trust/ Believe in God’s Plan. We have to trust and believe that God’s timing is perfect and that he is in absolute control. He is working out a plan that is bigger than you and I. We have to trust that this thing had to happen to us in order to strengthen us. Everything we have been through has been used to build our faith and to position us for the great accomplishment. Remember Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. Therefore trusting his plan should be made easier.
Pray. When dealing with disappointment we may find ourselves overwhelmed with different emotions. In those moments it is hard to focus our hearts and minds. However, we must never lose focus in knowing that there is a supreme power that rules in our lives. Leading and guiding our every footstep. Why consult the guidance of others, who may have life experiences, but ultimately cannot guide our life. Therefore, we must remember to always pray. He knows our heart and thoughts. He understands. The father has sent back the comforter to lead and guide us.
Let It Out. We often find ourselves, during moments of hurt and pain, attempting to smile to mask the pain. We don’t want others to see our pain. However, it is okay to grieve and cry. Grieving is part of the healing process. The reality is, we all grieve in different ways. Some people may experience signs of physical transformations, while others may simply cry. Note that crying is not a sign of weakness, but a release of emotional, mental, or physical frustration. The reality is, in going through this process, you have to learn to be patient with yourself. You may wake up weeks from now grieving about the same disappointment, but it is okay. You need to release the emotions in a non-toxic manner. Don’t ignore the pain because it will just resurface in the most unexpected time. Instead, actively deal with the pain. And don’t beat yourself up because you didn’t realize you weren’t over the hurt yet. I have struggled with this on numerous occasions too. Acknowledge the hurt, retrospectively consider the situation, and move forward. Don’t get stuck in the “should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve” of the situation.
Listen and Wait. After praying and grieving comes the hardest part of all, listen and wait. One of the symptoms of grief is dealing with fear. Fear will cause us to make decisions that are not always structurally sound or best for us. So in those moments we must remember to listen for that “incline” of what our next step should be. In the process of listening, you will probably have to wait. Wait for the perfect job to open up or for your financial situation to turn around. Most often, we are not able to run away from our problems.
Despite how you may feel today, or even tomorrow, know that it will get better. Everything that happens in our lives happens for a reason. According to Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose”. If your love is in the Lord Almighty, know that ALL things, not some or a few, but ALL things are working together for a purpose. Walk in confidence and know that it is working towards your bright future. All the hurt, pain, and shame will reveal the glory of the Lord in your life and his purpose for you.
This a topic that I know all to well that rejection really hurts, but the reality that it could cause more psychological damage than emotional damage is mind blowing. Here are some behavior patterns that are often associated with rejection because it has various effects on our emotions, thinking, and behavior.
Rejection does not respond to reason. When you have been emotionally wounded by a person(s) or situation, reason goes out the window quickly. Consequently, people often say things or do things that they later regret. In the heat of the moment you no longer care about others emotions or well-being. You go into, what I define as, “survival of the fittest” mode. You become so consumed with your feelings and thoughts that everyone is shut out. This is why it is suggested that before reacting to situations you take time to “cool down”. You don’t want to live a life of regret, hurting those who you really care about with the words you say; or even worse, by taking someone’s life.
We can relive and re-experience the pain. If you try to recall a time you felt emotional inadequacy, your mind will be flooded with many of the same feelings you had at the time. The experience of rejection can easily haunt you because we are social butterflies. We lend our lives to interactions with our environment, which consist of hundreds of people on a weekly basis. You don’t forget the embarrassing moment when you weren’t chosen to play on the team, etc. The only way to deal with feelings of rejection is to practice forgiveness.
Rejection destabilizes our “Need to Belong”. If you are like me, you feel a need to belong to a group. Through many experiences I have found that this need decreases dramatically after rejection. This, in some ways, adds to the sting of rejection because you have now rejected the idea that you can be accepted in a group of people: self-esteem significantly decreases. Romantic or “friendship” rejection tends to leave us feeling inadequate and blaming ourselves for the rejection. This type of rejection usually stems from the lack of chemistry between the person(s), lifestyle differences, or wanting different things at different times. However, I found that connecting with those who love me, or reaching out to my closest friends, holds much more value and helps to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Most importantly, seeking encouragement through the word of God is most beneficial.
Rejection creates surges of anger and aggression. Just when you think you are over the sting of rejection, you wake up one morning infuriated and ready to crush anyone that attempts to say anything constructive to you. When this happens, usually there is a trigger for the anger. Maybe a text or message from the person(s), you see a social media post, or even hear a famous line that the person(s) quoted often. Either way, you cannot afford to sit and harness the anger because it only causes destruction.
Like I said earlier, we have to practice forgiveness if we desire to deal with issues of the heart and mind. Live a limitless and free life!
Take a few moments, inhaling and exhaling. As you sit in silence, tell me, what is that thought gnawing at you? In those moments of silence we tend to discover many different aspects about ourselves. From learning about our hopes and desires, to learning our strengths and weaknesses. Today I want to focus on that negative thought, or situation, that has held you back long enough. I know you’re thinking, I am so over it and I don’t even care about that anymore. Beloved, please be honest with yourself, for it is the only way you can grow and move on. Know your weakness, or distraction, so you can strategically move past “the hang-up”. I can personally testify, I have allowed many things in my life, mostly frequently the feeling of betrayal, to “hang me up”. Let’s take a few moments and discuss the betrayal of the Lord Jesus Christ.
In Matthew 26:14-16 we find that Judas agrees to betray Jesus:
14 Then one of the Twelve—the one called Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests 15 and asked, “What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?” So they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver. 16 From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over.
Judas was a disciple of the Lord. But yet Judas agrees to betray him for money.
47 While he was still speaking, Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived. With him was a large crowd armed with swords and clubs, sent from the chief priests and the elders of the people. 48 Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: “The one I kiss is the man; arrest him.” 49 Going at once to Jesus, Judas said, “Greetings, Rabbi!” and kissed him.
50 Jesus replied “Do what you came for, friend.”
We know that the Lord Jesus Christ had the power to heal the sick, give sight to the blind, and allow the lame to walk. Do you not think that he could have easily overcome Judas and the crowd of armed men? He chooses to surrender so that we might have the keys to eternal life. His surrender was not a sign of weakness, but a sure sign of strength. He accomplished what he set out to do, which was to fulfill the redemption plan of mankind. I wonder where we would be today if Jesus was “hung up” on the betrayal instead of staying focused on the goal.
It is time to let go of the weight and stop replaying, over and over again, the betrayal of the loved one. Forgive for he has forgiven you. The truth is we all make mistakes. And you, the accuser or accused, cannot stay in that place. Do not allow bitterness, malice, or angry to dictate your future. He has a plan for you and it doesn’t consist of you whaling in self-pity and hurt. Get over the hang up, not for them, but for you to truly be free. What great example Jesus set for us. Remember he is our example, he is the Golden Standard.
It saddens me to think that for so long I allowed the adversary to steal my joy and hope for a bright future: simply because I didn’t forgive. I didn’t forgive them and I didn’t forgive myself. I couldn’t let go of the hurt and embarrassment of being rejected. I stayed hung up on the disappointments for way too long, which held me back from walking in my purpose. So, I stand with you today and proclaim:
You will no longer be the same after reading this post. You will no longer hold on to the pain, shame, and embarrassment of your past hurts and disappointments. You recognize that your hope is in Christ and not in man. You will walk with confidence proclaiming the things of the kingdom. You have spiritual, emotional, and physical health and wealth.